5 Healthy Social Media Habits

Do you want to develop healthy social media habits? This article can help!

As a society, we are very attached to our phones. Since social media has become such an integral part of our lives, we usually don’t realize how much time we waste scrolling through our feeds daily. Can you remember a day when you didn’t send a tweet or liked a photo online? This over-dependence on social media can cause harm to its users. 

According to a study published in the Journal of Mental Health, social media impacts users’ mental health. Liking, commenting, sharing, and uploading are activities that take up a lot of our time. The truth is that people usually only post their best moments online – as a result, we only get to see the flashy and elegant photographs that others have posted. The harder, less glamorous things they go through in their daily lives remain hidden. Consequently, we can start feeling like our lives are not as good as the ones we view digitally.

Social media is beneficial in many ways; it allows people to share ideas, connect with people all over the world, spread awareness, and entertain us. To foster the positive effects of the digital world, we have to focus on building healthy social media habits. This article will talk about how to use social media constructively while simultaneously taking care of your mental health. Before we get to the tips, let’s review the hazards of improper social media use:

THE ADVERSE IMPACTS OF SOCIAL MEDIA

• Social Media Stress: The constant use of your phone can negatively impact your life. You may become overly attached to your phone and feel stressed when you attempt to put it down. You may also feel anxious about getting a certain amount of comments or views on your posts. When you post a picture and it receives fewer likes than usual  it can be a huge blow to your self-esteem and worth.
• Constant Comparison: We all are guilty of comparing ourselves to others online. Remember that social media is not reality – just because someone is smiling in their instagram post doesn’t mean they are smiling on the inside. When you compare yourself to others, you start to feel bad about your own life and experiences. This comparison is robbing you of appreciating the precious moments of your life.

• Missing out on Life Offline: When you are so consumed with the digital world, you might miss what is happening around you. It is great to stay connected online, but don’t let your scrolling stop you from making memories and connections in person. the internet will always be there, but the moments of our lives are fleeting. 
• Anonymity and Animosity: The internet allows people to do or say whatever they want. As a result, some people feel like they can comment mean or hurtful things on social media platforms with no consequences. People also can adopt fake identities and scam innocent people for their money, private information, and more. Remember to always be careful and cautious when using social media!

Now that we covered the negative effects of social media misuse, let’s get into some ways to use social media more beneficially:

5 TIPS FOR HEALTHY SOCIAL MEDIA HABITS

• IMPLEMENT A DIGITAL DETOX DAY: One great way to develop healthy social media habits, is to do a digital detox! This detox can be very beneficial! When you are constantly on social media, your mind remains in active mode. Your nerves never get the calm that’s needed to relax and sleep. As a result of this excessive screen time, you feel sleepy and lethargic during the day. So, once a week at least, have a digital detox day by putting your phone away and spending time with loved ones in real life. 

• STOP LETTING COMPARISON STEAL YOUR JOY: When you see other people post about their thriving lifestyle or success, you can start feeling bad about your own situation. This comparison can start harming your confidence or relationships with others. For example, you start blaming your partner for not making enough money to treat you or take you to fancy dinners like you see other couples do online. This comparison causes arguments and disappointments in your relationship. Stop comparing yourself and your life to the ones you see on your feed! Remind yourself that you are on your own unique path. You will accomplish your goals and dreams at the right time! Stop striving for a perfect life – this will only cause you stress and an overall feeling of disappointment.

• SCHEDULE YOUR SCROLL: Likewise, it is always advisable to make a schedule for your social media usage. If you notice that the constant scrolling of social media is affecting your functionality, try this method. For example, plan to set aside 20 minutes for Instagram, 10 minutes for Twitter, 30 minutes for LinkedIn, or 15 minutes for Snapchat. This technique can help you curb your social media usage and save yourself from its hazards. 

• SPREAD POSITIVITY: One great tip for creating healthy social media habits is to spread some positivity around! Be the change you wish to see in other people’s lives, or in this case, feeds. Spread optimism and take pleasure in your social media experience by posting motivational images or videos. You can be making someone else’s day better with your posts!
• SOCIALIZE WITH PEOPLE OFFLINE: Stop scrolling for a second, and appreciate the people around you. How many times do you use your cell phone when you are with loved ones? When you are spending time with friends, you may not be fully present because you are tuned into the virtual world. Sitting with them absent-mindedly and trying to spend genuine quality time with them are two very different things. Start being mindful of your time and cherish the moments spent with your loved ones. Detach from your phone and immerse yourself in the present!

THE VERDICT

Overall, social media has many positive and negative factors. Since we live in a society immersed in its use, it is beneficial to find healthy ways of navigating these platforms. I hope this article helped you learn more about social media healthy habits and makes you enjoy your daily scroll more!                                     

If it is your first time looking for a therapist, you probably have many questions. If you have been to therapy before, you may be looking to find a new mental-health provider that fits your criteria better. You may be wondering, “where do I even start?” This article can help clear up some of the confusion you are facing. Follow these tips to make this process as smooth and question-free as possible.

First: Reflect on Your Goals for Therapy

The first step in finding a therapist is evaluating your situation and the reasons you want to start therapy. Ask yourself these questions:

• Is there a specific life event I’d like to talk about?

• Is there a specific concern I would like to treat?

• Who do I feel most comfortable talking to (someone who is a man, woman, non-binary, part the LGBTQ+ community, an ally, etc.)?

Is there a specific life event I’d like to talk about?

When thinking about starting therapy, is there an occurrence that sticks out to you? Did a life event (e.g. a breakup, a death, a scarring tragedy, etc.) happen that left a lasting impact on you? If you said yes to either of these questions, you deserve support! You may be facing anxiety, stress, sadness, and fear as a result of these instances. Your emotions are important, and a therapist can supply you with the tools needed to tackle these concerns.

Is there a specific concern I would like to treat?

Why do you want to meet with a therapist? Think of the reasons you want to go. Some can be:

• I want to improve my overall mental wellness.

• I want to work on my self-esteem and believe in myself more.

• I’ve been feeling sad or anxious lately and don’t know why – I want to explore this further.

• I want to improve my relationship with my partner(s).

• Controlling my emotions feels difficult at times. I want to improve my ability to handle my feelings and understand them.

When you go to therapy, a therapist will assess your situation and create an effective plan to help you. If you have been to a therapist before, you may have already received a diagnosis. Common reasons people seek therapy are:

Depression and Anxiety

People with depression experience sadness, feelings of emptiness, negative thoughts, and more. People with anxiety face constant stress that consumes their minds. The anxiety can get so bad that it starts affecting them physically. People with anxiety may experience a racing heartbeat, trembling, and dizziness. Both of these disorders can be crippling and prevent people from living their daily lives.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD):

People with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) deal with constant worries, intrusive thoughts, and the continuous need to perform compulsions. Compulsions are actions people with OCD believe they need to do so that their intrusive thoughts won’t become reality. For example, someone thinks they need to turn the light switch on and off repetitively, or something horrible will happen to their loved one.

Perfectionism and People Pleasing

People who struggle with perfectionism are extremely hard on themselves – they feel a constant need to act without flaws and perfectly perform. If they fail, they beat themselves up and feel awful.

People-pleasers focus heavily on making others happy. These people struggle with saying no to others. Many times the constant “yes” from people-pleasers affects their own lives. They are too busy helping others that they don’t have time to complete their own tasks. People-pleasers will do things that may make them uncomfortable in fear of upsetting others. Often, people get so used to people-pleasers saying “yes” that they stop asking and just assume the answer will be the same.

Caity Thompson LMHC

Our founder, Caity Thompson LMHC, helps her clients deal with perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing tendencies. Caity was a professional athlete. The pressure of her sports career led Caity to deal with many of the challenges her clients struggle with. Caity has a unique understanding of her client’s experiences and a dedication to providing effective therapy.

Eating Disorders and Body Issues

People who deal with eating disorders struggle to feel comfortable in their bodies. According to the APA, people can experience:

• Binge Eating: People with this disorder binge (eat an excessive and uncontrollable amount).

• Bulimia nervosa: People with bulimia nervosa usually binge and purge after.

• Anorexia nervosa: People with anorexia nervosa struggle with being able to eat. This struggle causes them to eat very little or not at all.

People also struggle with body dysmorphia. This disorder causes people to fixate on a certain part of their body. For example, someone may be self-conscious of a birthmark on their face and consider it a “flaw”. They obsess over how people perceive their “flaw” all day and experience intense stress over this. In extreme cases, people feel so horrible about themselves they fear leaving the house and interacting with others.

Elle Laub LMHC

One of our TMH therapists, Elle Laub LMHC, specializes in eating disorders, disordered eating patterns, and working through your relationship with your body and self-esteem. Elle takes a Health At Every Size-oriented and anti-diet approach and can help you work through recognizing maladaptive behavioral patterns and gaining emotional tolerance.

Relationship and Family Concerns:

Humans are social beings – our lives are full of relationships and connections with others. Sometimes these connections can be challenging to manage. Fights happen, arguments take place, grudges develop, and relationships become affected. Therapy can help people better their connections with others – romantic, friendly, or familial.

Jennie Bokser LMHC, our third therapist in our TMH team, works with individuals and couples. She specializes in helping adults cope with anxiety, racing thoughts, and stress. Jennies supports clients with issues involving relationships, family conflict, and feeling comfortably attached to others.

The Takeaway from this section…

When looking for a therapist, remember to identify what you want to tackle in your sessions. Different therapists specialize in certain areas. Therapists will usually list their specialties on their website or in a blurb on platforms like Psychology Today or Zencare This information can assist you in finding a therapist that is right for you and that can help you with your specific concerns.

Who do I feel most comfortable talking to (someone who is a man, woman, non-binary, part the LGBTQ+ community, an ally, etc.)?

Many people feel comfortable sharing their emotions and being vulnerable with someone they can relate to – this is something to consider when looking for a therapist. For example, a person who identifies as queer may feel most comfortable talking to an LGBTQ+ member or an identified ally. Is there a certain therapist that you would prefer to see, or is any therapist that provides the support you need ok with you?

Second: Screen the Therapists

Many people have consultations with therapists to determine if they would work well together. Screening involves asking the potential therapist questions to see if they line up with your criteria. Some questions that might be helpful to ask are:

• Are you able to help me with (your particular disorder/concern)?

• What populations do you have experience helping?

• What type of therapy models do you practice? Can you explain a little about each one?

• Do you take insurance? If so, what type of insurance do you accept? What is your cost per session? What is your copayment (copay)?

• If you are LGBTQ+: Do you provide LGBTQ+ affirmative therapy? Can you support me with any personal concerns involving my LGBTQ+ experience (family issues, romantic relationships, discrimination)? Are you an ally?

• If you are BIPOC: Are you anti-racist? Will you be able to support me with any specific concerns that come with being BIPOC (racism, discrimination, microaggressions, etc.)?

Third: Review Your Finances

As mentioned in the previous step, ask the therapist what insurance/coverage they take. If you like a specific therapist, but they do not accept your insurance/don’t take any insurance, weigh your options. Will you be able to afford their services?

Fourth: Pick Between Online or In-Person Therapy

During this pandemic, you may have seen that more and more people attended their therapy meetings online. Online therapy provides an accessible alternative to in-person sessions. Online therapy has some great pros. One awesome advantage is that you can talk with a therapist anywhere – people can be in the comfort of their homes while receiving the support they need.

In-person therapy allows you to sit face-to-face with a mental health provider. You may feel more engaged talking to someone instead of a computer screen. In these uncertain times, check to see if the therapist you are interested in does in-person therapy or will offer it in the future. With either option you go with, you will still receive professional support and treatment.

Fifth: If all else fails, repeat steps 1, 2, 3, and 4

You may feel overwhelmed when looking for a therapist. Always remember that no decision you make is final! Even if you start going to a therapist, attend a few sessions, and realize that it isn’t working out for you, that is OK! One therapist does not represent every mental health provider out there. You can always try another therapist and see how it goes! When all else fails – repeat steps 1, 2, 3, and 4!

The therapists at TMH Counseling want to provide you with the support you need! Caity, Elle, and Jennie are trained professionals that strive to assist their clients with any concerns they face. To learn more about our therapists, visit Meet Our Therapists page.